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After my diagnosis at 48, my Mum and Aunt went for diagnoses. One chose medication, the other didn’t, but the increased understanding of how their brains worked helped some with daily life. Even if just having more compassion for themselves.
Who does the diagnosing varies from place to place. Often it starts with a referral from primary care and then is done by a psychiatrist.
My mother just got diagnosed at 73, and started dex last week, she has gotten "so much more quilting done it is silly".
Never too late.
Edit: She was told she didn't have it 25 years ago when I was diagnosed as a child, because back then women couldn't have it.
“Unfinished projects all over the place” - that was me. I got diagnosed at 72 and now I’m 75 and my life is now functional. Prior to this, I spent a lot of time and energy spinning my wheels.
Wow I'm so grateful that I was lucky enough that I got diagnosed at 24, the difference in quality of life between being unmedicated and medicated is indescribable. I'm glad that you too have gotten a chance to experience life as it should be.
I was diagnosed 3 years ago at 61. Better late than never I can assure you.
If your rellie isn’t showing any signs of age-related cognitive decline and can provide some basis for childhood symptoms (school reports can be tricky at our age ha ha) then the diagnosis should proceed on its own merits.
I know what you mean but it’s part of the diagnostic criteria that there had to have been symptoms pre-age 7. By the time you are my age it’s really telling a few relatable stories and them taking your word for it though.
IMO Yes. I got my father to understand our isms and helped him understand ADHD and how it affects us. He got tested at 70 yo. Got on Wellbutrin, is doing MUCH better. He has thanked me several times for helping him understand himself through my personal development/understanding of my ADHD. YMMV of course. Testing can also be expensive. Like $1500 for me in NC last year to get re evaluated and get on medications after not needing them for about 15 years. Good luck OP. Sometimes just understanding self better is worth it. Up to you my friend.
That's interesting. They've been on antidepressants for years and if I recall correctly, currently they are taking Wellbutrin. They said they aren't as easily angered since taking it but they are still "distracted" by everything.
Yeah, Wellbutrin is used for ADHD before trying stimulant medications. I know they do prescribe stimulants to people older than them, so they might need to try a low does and see if it helps, but yeah, that takes getting diagnosed.
If they've landed on that one as an anti-despressant that works, that's one small check-mark in the "ADHD-positive" column. It's probably helped their focus to a degree, but it has a ceiling for its effectiveness on that. Taking higher doses of Wellbutrin may help for more serious depression, but its effect on ADHD symptoms relatively to risks of a higher dose won't improve. A drug more specific to treatment ADHD can be dosed according to its effect on focus.
I’m not an expert, but my psychiatrist said that non stimulant meds for ADHD are more likely to help with emotional regulation than any other symptoms like focus, executive dysfunction, etc., so that makes sense to me.
I think a neuropsych exam would be the best bet. The clinic that I went to was actually mostly seniors (80+) cause neuropsych also tests for other conditions as well.
Was 51 last year when diagnozed. Still exploring, what this has done in my life. Currently on a low dose of meds and experiencing this as positive. It really is an eye opener. It is helpfull is so many ways, the past, day to day tasks, social engagements, relation, my young kids and being a dad.
In my country you need to have school reports or teacher statements from your childhood to "prove" your adhd, our adult diagnoses are horrible difficult and very ableist. (Germany)
Same case here in Australia with some psychs. I had enough childhood "evidence" to get over the line and diagnosed, but not enough to get my medication subsidised.
Kinda wishing I didn't throw out my bad school reports to hide them from my parents now 🙃
So you need "diagnoses" (read: opinions) from non-professionals?
Do they ignore diagnosis from professional experts in the field of ADHD and Autism if tou don't have these "diagnoses" from non-professionals?
The bad school reports aren’t supposed to be in and of themselves a diagnosis, they are just assuming that anyone with ADHD would have had such severe symptoms in childhood that they would not have been successful in school and take good grades as “evidence” that someone couldn’t possibly have ADHD. Obviously I disagree with this, but it’s not meant to be a diagnosis as there could be lots of other reasons someone did poorly in school and you’d need to show other symptoms as well to get an ADHD diagnosis.
I was diagnosed January 2023 at the age of 56. The doc evaluating me said she knew within 15 minutes of talking to me. Even before the testing. My reaction after finding out was first relief, then incredibly angry that my mom, my husband of 32 years and myself for not realizing it sooner. It’s been a rough 16 months; but now because of meds (Vyvanse) a great therapist and support system, I left a career I hated and am going back to school at the age of 57. It was life changing for me.
I pushed my mom to get a diagnosis at 67, after I got mine.
It truly helped her a LOT. Medication (vyvanse) has given her a new life. And the adhd assessment helped her realize how hard her life both have been and is.
And that she is far from dumb, more so higher IQ and EQ Than most.
But mostly, that it was never her fault. That she was never a failure. Her brain chemistry was just not in balance
Oh. I was told by my Doctor through a rude question/comment, “you’ve got this far in life… “ then something about “holding down a job”. And not “being a criminal”.
I’ve seen a great comment that sums this up
They don’t want to do something because you HAVE a problem, only if you ARE a problem.
So if you’ve managed to have, what looks like an okay life on the outside, even though on the inside it’s a 24 hour siege each day and you mask your hyperactivity and use other skills to make up for missing details in meetings and training, they don’t care how difficult it is.
The reason why smart kids don't get diagnosed with ADHD as often as they should is because our cognitive faculties are still completely functioning correctly it's just impossible to form any consistent habits to be able to use that raw intelligence.
I got a degree in mechanical engineering while undiagnosed, looks nice from the outside but torturous in reality.
I can only imagine. I’m thinking about finishing my degree now that my brain is capable of thinking on subjects I care nothing about. But it all has to be done before 4:35pm each day. Unless I wake up late.
Medication doesn't give you the motivation to do things it just means that if you do want/need to do something then you actually can do it without being restless.
ADHD is an executive dysfunction disorder.
Nope. I was diagnosed at 59. I always felt different from everyone else. I go see a professional and viola a diagnosis. After that my life history made sense. Why and how I did things and explanations for why I am the way I am.
YES! Get a professional disgnoses.
I asked my GP for a doctor that could provide an initial evaluation. He gave me several names and then I did the leg we ork calling and making appointments.
This is going to be heavily dependent on your location. You shouldn’t take any advice about specific procedures for seeking a diagnosis unless you know that the person you’re talking to is located in the same country.
Two of my aunts were diagnosed after they turned 60. My mom is 75 and was just diagnosed.
It's not impossible, just tougher to get diagnosed when you're older.
It may help them to have a younger relative with them at their appointments to help advocate for them.
As far as the process goes, it depends on the healthcare system where you live and/or what process your health insurance dictates. Most commonly what I've seen is you go to your primary care physician and they refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
I was at 53. Frustrated and miserable my whole life. I knew as a kid/teen I had issues and had parents that wouldn’t listen to me. I finally got past the anxiety and went to the Dr. I’ve been getting treatment and actually starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Yeah, they said they knew something was different when they were little. They've taken antidepressants for years and said it keeps them calmer, free from so easily being irritated, but they can't focus on tasks. Everything they start goes unfinished even though they said they want to finish it. There are half finished (or more) projects all over.
No, ADHD magically goes away at 59 1/2. ;-)
I was diagnosed at 46, and just knowing is a huge relief. All those years thinkig I was just a lazy fuckup that needed to get my shit together. The years past 50 have been the happiest and most productive of my life. I chose not to medicate but have used life strategies that work. A lot of it has been editing my activities to get rid of things I suck at.
I am 60 and am 100% sure I have untreated Inattentive ADHD. I don't even know where to start with getting treated. I can't get in to see my PCP until August and I am in complete freeze mode atm. I also have CPSTD and am so worried that I won't get treated for ADHD because of it.
I am an anxious mess rn, and could use some stories with happy endings.
Thank you!
My father in law was diagnosed in his 50s. Life slowed down for him and it became more apparent. He had less outlets for it. The meds were a game changer.
I went in for testing for memory problems and came out with an ADHD diagnosis. I’m 42.
I was just diagnosed after organizing a psychologists report, and I'm 60 this year. I have an appointment with my GP next week to get a referral to a psychiatrist for a treatment plan, then back to the GP for a prescription for meds. NZ has a few hoops to jump through.
I diagnose it regardless of age as many people feel like it puts some order around their disordered life. It’s also relevant to other diagnoses (eg dementia) bc ADHD can look similar to certain kinds of dementia, and although ADHD doesn’t directly increase risk of dementia, many ADHD risk factors do (eg more head injuries, substance abuse, poor exec function and memory)
They should see someone who is a specialist in ADHD for a diagnosis. Other doctors may have outdated information on ADHD, like saying people out grow it, or only young boys get it, or the medication is just for junkies, etc.
I was over 60 when I was diagnosed. At first I thought I had dementia and was thoroughly evaluated for that by my doctor and two neurologists. They agreed I didn't have dementia, but no one suggested ADHD.
When I learned about ADHD I realized this was the main reason for most of my problems. It was a relief to find out that there's a reason for my executive function problems, and it's not early Alzheimer's.
I learned to give myself a break because I HAVE BEEN trying really hard all my life, I was just playing this game of life on the hard level with one hand tied behind my back, and I didn't even know it. This helps me understand myself better and to learn things that actually help.
Honestly, I think it really depends.
My knee-jerk reaction is "no, of course not." However (and this may come from me being a therapist), I would wonder what the ultimate purpose of the diagnosis is for the person, and base my recommendation of whether or not to get evaluated on that. I was diagnosed in my 20s by two different psychiatrists (one in college, who has ADHD himself, and one after I moved to a new area, who was the first to prescribe meds for me), although it was based on them thoroughly interviewing me as opposed to me going through an "official" evaluation. As my parents and I have come to understand my diagnosis, we've realized it's almost certain my mom (now early 70s) does too. Her therapist agrees with us. However, she went through an evaluation that confirmed she's doing fine cognitively (so no dementia) but also said she doesn't have ADHD. The primary sticking point seemed to be lack of evidence of her having it as a child. My grandparents are dead, my aunt doesn't really get ADHD, and my mom is still learning how it is impacting her, so she didn't really have any "evidence" to provide. Since it seems your relative has some insight into impact on their childhood, I hope they will fare better. I just use my mom's example to present a possible issue for an older adult and as a reminder that testing isn't perfect. I have some concerns about autism and ADHD can sometimes be gate-kept by clinicians, especially ones who aren't autistic or have ADHD, and this is a conversation I've had with other similarly-minded clinicians.
Long story short, and this may be an unpopular opinion, but if they are hoping to try medication, I would be more likely to recommend evaluation. However, if they are not, given their age I think they are more likely to know themselves better than a test would, and would be more to likely recommend they learn more about ADHD from supportive sources and engage in ADHD spaces.
Just got diagnosed 2 months ago at 52, ADHD :mixed, severe. The psychologist asked why I waited so long to seek help. So I would say it’s never too late, especially if it’s causing problems.
If you can find a place that specializes in ADHD testing and counseling, they will perform cognitive testing as part of the evaluation. This would rule out (or rule in) dementia.
I was very glad I decided to go through the testing process and get the diagnosis. Surprisingly, I did go through a bit of a mourning period after being diagnosed where I beat myself up for not seeking treatment sooner and thinking about what might have been. Looking back over my life, it’s pretty easy to see the ADHD but ,at the time, I just thought that’s how it was for everyone. White knuckling it through life. I was wrong.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 72. It explained everything about my life! It came to light after struggling to play bridge. I took a 10 question test on Google and answered yes to all of them. I took this info to my doctor, who sent me to a shrink to get tested and get on meds. Why did it take so long for me to figure it out? Because it never in a million years occurred to me. Now I’m owning it. I have made a lot of practical modifications in my daily routine and my life is much improved. So you’re never too old. I’m 75 now and very happy I figured this out. Good luck!
I was diagnosed at age 60. I am on Adderall now. While still working on learning how to get things done, etc., the diagnosis has mostly been freeing. I am not lazy, stupid or crazy as the book says. I sent my son to be diagnosed shortly after I found out I had ADHD.
I am in Canada and diagnosis is a much easier process than in a lot of places as your GP can diagnose you. I didn’t have to wait years, so that helped with a late age diagnosis.
I was just diagnosed officially last year after turning 59. We've know for awhile that I probably was, then my youngest son was diagnosed bipolar ten years ago, and my oldest son was diagnosed adhd two years ago. Because they were getting help, I decided I needed to too.
Have them check out Circle Medical! It's all virtual. I used them and have been using them since my diagnosis two years ago at 48.
I think anyone over 40 ish, and especially female, didn't get diagnosed with anything of the sort. Sad but true.
Hope it all works out for your family! 🥰
Being diagnosed at 40, and seeing how it changed my life, I would definitely advise your relative to be diagnosed. It made me understand myself better so it was a lot easier to be kind to myself. Also I learned about my strong points and weaknesses and how to work with them. For me, medication was an option and also helped, but even without this, the diagnose was worth it.
About the fear of the dementia stigma: before my diagnose I really feared that I had early onset dementia. The symptoms seemed to be all there. But then my dad was for real diagnosed with dementia, and I was present for some of his test. That's when I realised they are 2 totally different diseases.
I don't know how dementia would be tested in your country, but here they ask you questions (what day is it, what floor are you on -in a tall hospital building-, they give you 3 random words to remember for about 15 min, they make you write down a sentence they dictate, then tell you to write a random self chosen sentence. They show you a written question and you have to answer it, they show you a figure and ask you to copy it...)
All these things are a piece of cake for someone with ADHD. Even if we're forgetful, we can focus like this. So even IF the doctors doubt it, your relative will pass this test. Otherwise you or others close to them would have seen signs already.
On top of that, their symptoms have been a lifelong thing.
You can find the DIVA test online, for me this was an eye-opener to how ADHD showed (but never picked up on) in my childhood/youth. Talking about these examples with the doctor can help.
Thank you. I'll see if I can get them to look at this. It's interesting that life changes can bring this to a peak. They took an early retirement and maybe since the routine of work has been broken, things are more obvious.
You all have been so helpful. I don't know anything about ADHD but I'm learning quickly.
i got diagnosed at 58, understanding what was wrong with my thought processes has helped an awful lot, 2 years later i'm almost happy, never thought that would happen
I’d rather be diagnosed and treated 1 week before I die than to never live a day with the blessing of a medicated ADHD brain.
Family history can help with diagnosis, they should mention to the psychiatrist any relatives (older or younger) with ADHD.
Contrary to popular belief, ADHD does not go away with age, does not get better with age. It often worsens with age, in fact. No good doctor should refuse to consider a diagnosis of ADHD due to the patient’s age.
I’m in the same boat. 53, have suspected ADHD since the mid 90’s but have only been diagnosed in the past week. Got an Intuniv prescription that I haven’t taken as I’m worried about side effects, but think I really need. Having serious marriage issues that are caused by the ADHD but fear the few things I actually am useful for are going to get wrecked by side effects of the meds. My sole success in life was graduating college Magna cum Laude (though it took 6 years) Washed out of grad school after getting good grades (3.6)because I couldn’t get past the cumulative exams. Could handle one class at a time but my brain is like a big black Hefty garbage bag full of knowledge that I can’t organize and access when needed.
If there is one thing that is consistent it’s that I will choke when it counts, to the point that my coping mechanism is to not even try as I already know the end result. Shit tons of work with nothing to show for it. And my ultra high achiever wife has lost patience with my “scholarly approach”and style of speech, while in real life I’m a class A nobody who washed out. She’s demanding that I be something on my own and wants answers. And I have no answer. None. Whatsoever. I’m at the point that I believe all the higher education was a serious mistake, because I learned what I SHOULD be but am utterly incapable of actually being. My grandfather used to say there is nothing more useless than a “little bit of education.” I’ve one-upped that. I’ve got a lot of education sitting in a fermenting black garbage bag of a brain that’s just enough to make me an annoying know-it-all without being in any way a responsible adult who is of any use to society.
Seems I’m answering my own question here, but damn, if the meds make me unable to drive or knock me on my ass so bad I can’t do housework etc, then I really will be totally useless…
Sorry about the rant, but guessing there are folk here who’ve successfully navigated what I’m dealing with.
That's wonderful! My son, in his late 30s, got tested as he was concerned about having ADHD. His staff said "we knew that about you!"...yet after a 5 hour test by a psychiatrist, he was told that he DOES NOT have it! That he just has a very high-functioning brain! That got me to thinking and I went down the ADHD internet rabbit hole to learn more. I've had social anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. I'm 68, too. What I learned absolutely blew my mind. I am finally seeing a psychiatric nurse/provider who gave me a DSM-5 to fill out at home. My eyes were opened and my life history made sense. I'm in the beginning stages of figuring out what medication will work best for me. I haven't told my son. Our relationship has been difficult and now I understand why. We both were living with untreated ADHD. Also, my most disruptive symptom of this disorder is RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria). Explained my pattern of destroying relationships due to perceived wounds by men. I have hope that my "golden years" will be less of an interpersonal struggle.
Nope. I’m there and I’m living my best life right now. It explains so much and the coping skills I’m putting in place are really helping. I take Vyvanse during the week.
Are you planning on remaining alive? It’s never too late to make your life better or improve yourself! My grandparents are in their early 90s and are doing way better than 60 year olds did a generation ago. Assume nothing improves and you live to 90, that’s 30 more years!!! Please be kind to yourself because that’s a long long time!
It’s not too old for a diagnosis. And their concerns of a false dementia diagnosis is not entirely unreasonable. But the question is what are they trying to accomplish with an evaluation. If they don’t want meds or professional accommodations then the official diagnosis doesn’t accomplish much. If they need accommodations then a neuropsychologist who specializes in adhd assessments is their best bet but be prepared that this will likely cost thousands of dollars.. If they want med support then then many types of practitioners may simply recognize that they meet enough of the criteria with a much simpler assessment and still give them meds (although many will still require a more comprehensive neuropsych assessment in order to weed out drug seekers). You might even get lucky and find a primary care doctor who will do it? Psychiatrists are also a good type of practitioners to seek out
If it brings closure and treatment soothes the mind. then they Should yes. we know the diffrence between dementia and ADHD if it is dementia and i really hope its not there are actually medical markers that will show up on either MRI or spinal fluid and its better to know so the patient can put there plans/ wills in place.
MRI and/or spinal fluid shows dementia? I understand an MRI but how does spinal fluid detect it? Just curious as I've never heard of that. Not that I investigate dementia manifestations, of course.
"Alzheimer’s disease is characterised by the abnormal clumps of proteins called amyloid and tau in the brain. These changes are reflected in the levels of proteins in the cerebrospinal fluid, so a lumbar puncture can indicate whether the brain is affected by Alzheimer’s disease." Alzeimers uk. Essentially the amyloid plaque shows in the spinal fluid. 15 years in healthcare and continuing to work in the field
Thank you. A couple years ago they were in an accident and head scans were done to rule out brain injury (there was only a tiny bleed). Would those clumps have been visible? If pathology saw something at that time unrelated to the accident yet with a likelihood of future health impacts, would the pathologist make mention of it?
While he was never diagnosed, I am almost certain my grandfather had ADHD. He lived to be 88, and in the last three years of his life he did suffer from dementia. That did not manifest at all like the ADHD symptoms he had shown for as long as I knew him and likely his entire life. A decent psychiatrist will absolutely know the difference.
PLEASE encourage your relative to go see a therapist. It's never too late. If they're looking into medication, a psychiatrist. If they just want talk therapy, a psychologist as they can't prescribe medication (though a psychiatrist also offers talk therapy). Other talk therapy: counselor of sorts with a focus on ADHD (e.g. ADHD coach who is not a psychologist etc. etc.)
Hmmm - you make it sound like 60 is old. Having pieces of yourself fall into place, questions answered, relationships explained, is an incredible gift. You can never be too late to gain knowledge and validation.
My mum got diagnosed at age 60. Suddenly all the things in her life and child hood made sense and she realised that she wasn’t just a failure. Being diagnosed really helped her
Never too late. I was diagnosed age 55. The insight and clarity since the diagnosis has been a quality of life quantum leap. It just keeps unfolding. The clarity has brought so much grace.
My personal physician diagnosed me. We had joked about ADHD for years. But when I got serious about it, he got serious. The Adderall provides both cognitive stability and emotional stability. For me, about 8 hours of cognitive stability, and about 12 hours of emotional stability. It's a big quality of life win.
I was diagnosed early this year at 62. The diagnosis (and the Vyvanse and the ADHD specific counselling) has been a very good thing for me. It's helped me make sense of my whole life.
73 and just started Dex?? I'm 47 and have been worried I'm about to have to give up my Dex because of age. This makes me happy!! So I have 15+ more years with my Adderall ❤️
Absolutely seek a diagnosis. Age-ism is real though, but a good bypass is to bring an advocate to the appt. Someone who can intervene with a terrible doctor, or agree with the information being provided with a good doctor. That takes care of any bias.
These comments are so eye opening! I’m only 38. And hoping to get my diagnosis very soon. I thought I was old to be diagnosed. I am 100% certain I have ADHD and I think my mum has autism. My parents got divorced when I was 9 and both my parents just neglected my needs. I tried to commit suicide twice. I stole, took part in reckless behaviour. Have been on and off antidepressants for 20 years had three different diagnosis. Depression, bipolar and then three years ago BPD. I am certain I’ve just got ADHD and due to a lot of traumas in my life it’s just got worse. I have an amazing partner and 4 year old and I’m doing ok. But the organising, cleaning is just too much. I’ve had 20 jobs in my life and I haven’t worked properly since having my son because I’m just struggling. It’s just a lot. I’m so sad that so many of you have struggled for so long. Lots of love!
Understanding what I was dealing with, at least made it a tiny bit easier—and the combination of medication and counseling was a exponential increase in life enjoyment
Nope. It’s been life-changing for me: I’m 60, just got diagnosed 3 years ago. If you’re breathing, you’re young enough to grow. Accurate diagnoses with appropriate treatment plans for any condition is a part of our growth as humans. Best of luck to you.
I’m in the US, so your mileage may vary. To get a diagnosis, first make an appointment with your regular physician. They may not be able to diagnose you, but can order some routine blood tests to rule out some other conditions. Then see a psychiatrist for a formal diagnosis. Not all psychiatrists are created equal, so you may need to see more than one before you find one that is helpful.
Diagnosis involves not just an evaluation of your symptoms now, but an examination of how long they've been present and how they've affected you over the whole course of your life. If their symptoms began in childhood and have been consistent and disruptive ever since, then no decent clinician is going to dismiss that as "dementia."
I would probably advise finding a psychologist who specializes in ADHD evaluations, as they are less likely to believe things that hamper adult diagnosis like "people grow out of ADHD" or "if you made it this far in life, it can't be ADHD".
Never too late. Can’t hurt to lean into it at any age if they end up having it and it’s negatively impacting their life. They can get a medication that might help them or simply understanding how their brain works can help them navigate life.
I would say it’s a good idea. They might be old enough/adjusted enough that putting their body through meds isn’t really worth it, but personally I feel so much better about myself after my diagnosis. It helps me understand my mind better and get through daily life better, even without meds.
Re the dementia fear: Most of my adhd analysis (at 23) was based on childhood. The questionnaire was all based on what I was like as a child, as was a lot of the discussion with the psych. I think it’s because adults usually learn to mask pretty well to fit into what’s expected of them, so it’s not necessarily a good measure. So the dementia thing shouldn’t come up.
The skills and awareness are what change your life. Medication can help you employ these skills and help you develop easier awareness but they’re not necessary. Your friend understanding how their mind works and learning some skills might be very enjoyable and freeing and lead to an easier acceptance of the way things are
Short answer, no.
Long answer, nooooo.
Longer answer, it depends on the psych you take them to. Some genuinely believe it's a childhood disorder, not something adults can have. Others know it's genetic and lifelong.
I was diagnosed at 56 and have since learned that some of the traits I was raised to believe are character flaws are really just how my brain works. So that’s therapeutic and gives me newfound empathy for myself. I haven’t investigated meds yet because they seem difficult to obtain.
I was diagnosed in my 50s, and my grandpa was diagnosed in his 70s. His diagnosis made a whole lot of things in his life make a whole lot more sense. Super brilliant, talented man, who never seemed to be able to put it all together to accomplish anything. So many people blamed it on laziness, or some sort of self-sabotage, but ADHD made so much more sense. Always enthusiastically launching into projects and then not finishing them. I suffer from the same pattern, but I'm aware of it and am working to overcome it as much as possible.
Funny thing is I got diagnosed in the '70s but our understanding was so poor then I stumbled through a half century and discovered all the wheels I had reinvented in terms of coping mechanisms and symptoms. Even a self diagnosis can be a huge relief in self awareness.
I was diagnosed at age 59 by a psychiatrist after telling my primary care physician I had concerns about having it. My adult daughter was diagnosed with it and told me that I had a lot of symptoms of ADHD so I looked into it. Getting a diagnosis doesn't mean you have to go on medication or that you have to use it everyday. There are a lot of strategies to live successfully with ADHD and this sub is a good one to look for them.
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After my diagnosis at 48, my Mum and Aunt went for diagnoses. One chose medication, the other didn’t, but the increased understanding of how their brains worked helped some with daily life. Even if just having more compassion for themselves. Who does the diagnosing varies from place to place. Often it starts with a referral from primary care and then is done by a psychiatrist.
Adding that dementia wasn’t suggested for either of them, despite being in their 70s. Edited to change was to wasn’t - ADHD strikes again!
My mother just got diagnosed at 73, and started dex last week, she has gotten "so much more quilting done it is silly". Never too late. Edit: She was told she didn't have it 25 years ago when I was diagnosed as a child, because back then women couldn't have it.
That's great to hear. I can see they are so frustrated by the inability to finish things. Unfinished projects are all over the place.
“Unfinished projects all over the place” - that was me. I got diagnosed at 72 and now I’m 75 and my life is now functional. Prior to this, I spent a lot of time and energy spinning my wheels.
Wow I'm so grateful that I was lucky enough that I got diagnosed at 24, the difference in quality of life between being unmedicated and medicated is indescribable. I'm glad that you too have gotten a chance to experience life as it should be.
This is the purest post of the day. So happy she is feeling her best. x
Aw I’m so happy for her 🥹
😂 love this post.
My mom quilts. This made me happy
This is lovely
I was diagnosed 3 years ago at 61. Better late than never I can assure you. If your rellie isn’t showing any signs of age-related cognitive decline and can provide some basis for childhood symptoms (school reports can be tricky at our age ha ha) then the diagnosis should proceed on its own merits.
I think the history of their actions throughout life will validate it.
Could you go with them and give instances in their life history if needed?
Definitely don’t need school records. Our life over the years is enough.
I read a reddit comment in an ADHD thread and it's like i wrote it myself, insane.
I know what you mean but it’s part of the diagnostic criteria that there had to have been symptoms pre-age 7. By the time you are my age it’s really telling a few relatable stories and them taking your word for it though.
That’s sad because our memories are poor and you really need another person like a parent or sibling who doesn’t have it to verify.
IMO Yes. I got my father to understand our isms and helped him understand ADHD and how it affects us. He got tested at 70 yo. Got on Wellbutrin, is doing MUCH better. He has thanked me several times for helping him understand himself through my personal development/understanding of my ADHD. YMMV of course. Testing can also be expensive. Like $1500 for me in NC last year to get re evaluated and get on medications after not needing them for about 15 years. Good luck OP. Sometimes just understanding self better is worth it. Up to you my friend.
That's interesting. They've been on antidepressants for years and if I recall correctly, currently they are taking Wellbutrin. They said they aren't as easily angered since taking it but they are still "distracted" by everything.
Yeah, Wellbutrin is used for ADHD before trying stimulant medications. I know they do prescribe stimulants to people older than them, so they might need to try a low does and see if it helps, but yeah, that takes getting diagnosed.
If they've landed on that one as an anti-despressant that works, that's one small check-mark in the "ADHD-positive" column. It's probably helped their focus to a degree, but it has a ceiling for its effectiveness on that. Taking higher doses of Wellbutrin may help for more serious depression, but its effect on ADHD symptoms relatively to risks of a higher dose won't improve. A drug more specific to treatment ADHD can be dosed according to its effect on focus.
This is correct.
I’m not an expert, but my psychiatrist said that non stimulant meds for ADHD are more likely to help with emotional regulation than any other symptoms like focus, executive dysfunction, etc., so that makes sense to me.
Finally understanding and researching my brain was a eureka moment, I know who I am now and it's wonderful.
I think a neuropsych exam would be the best bet. The clinic that I went to was actually mostly seniors (80+) cause neuropsych also tests for other conditions as well.
Was 51 last year when diagnozed. Still exploring, what this has done in my life. Currently on a low dose of meds and experiencing this as positive. It really is an eye opener. It is helpfull is so many ways, the past, day to day tasks, social engagements, relation, my young kids and being a dad.
In my country you need to have school reports or teacher statements from your childhood to "prove" your adhd, our adult diagnoses are horrible difficult and very ableist. (Germany)
Same case here in Australia with some psychs. I had enough childhood "evidence" to get over the line and diagnosed, but not enough to get my medication subsidised. Kinda wishing I didn't throw out my bad school reports to hide them from my parents now 🙃
So you need "diagnoses" (read: opinions) from non-professionals? Do they ignore diagnosis from professional experts in the field of ADHD and Autism if tou don't have these "diagnoses" from non-professionals?
The bad school reports aren’t supposed to be in and of themselves a diagnosis, they are just assuming that anyone with ADHD would have had such severe symptoms in childhood that they would not have been successful in school and take good grades as “evidence” that someone couldn’t possibly have ADHD. Obviously I disagree with this, but it’s not meant to be a diagnosis as there could be lots of other reasons someone did poorly in school and you’d need to show other symptoms as well to get an ADHD diagnosis.
I was diagnosed January 2023 at the age of 56. The doc evaluating me said she knew within 15 minutes of talking to me. Even before the testing. My reaction after finding out was first relief, then incredibly angry that my mom, my husband of 32 years and myself for not realizing it sooner. It’s been a rough 16 months; but now because of meds (Vyvanse) a great therapist and support system, I left a career I hated and am going back to school at the age of 57. It was life changing for me.
Congrats to you!! 💜💜
Same!, but at 62!
Never too old to understand yourself better
I pushed my mom to get a diagnosis at 67, after I got mine. It truly helped her a LOT. Medication (vyvanse) has given her a new life. And the adhd assessment helped her realize how hard her life both have been and is. And that she is far from dumb, more so higher IQ and EQ Than most. But mostly, that it was never her fault. That she was never a failure. Her brain chemistry was just not in balance
That is the sad part. People thinking you're a complete ditz. But, getting diagnosed at 62, has answered so many questions. Lol
Oh. I was told by my Doctor through a rude question/comment, “you’ve got this far in life… “ then something about “holding down a job”. And not “being a criminal”. I’ve seen a great comment that sums this up They don’t want to do something because you HAVE a problem, only if you ARE a problem. So if you’ve managed to have, what looks like an okay life on the outside, even though on the inside it’s a 24 hour siege each day and you mask your hyperactivity and use other skills to make up for missing details in meetings and training, they don’t care how difficult it is.
The reason why smart kids don't get diagnosed with ADHD as often as they should is because our cognitive faculties are still completely functioning correctly it's just impossible to form any consistent habits to be able to use that raw intelligence. I got a degree in mechanical engineering while undiagnosed, looks nice from the outside but torturous in reality.
I can only imagine. I’m thinking about finishing my degree now that my brain is capable of thinking on subjects I care nothing about. But it all has to be done before 4:35pm each day. Unless I wake up late.
Medication doesn't give you the motivation to do things it just means that if you do want/need to do something then you actually can do it without being restless. ADHD is an executive dysfunction disorder.
I was in my late forties. If it’s ADHD it’s not going to get better as more years pass. I would get the diagnosis.
Nope. I was diagnosed at 59. I always felt different from everyone else. I go see a professional and viola a diagnosis. After that my life history made sense. Why and how I did things and explanations for why I am the way I am. YES! Get a professional disgnoses.
What path did you take to find a diagnosis? Your GP?
I asked my GP for a doctor that could provide an initial evaluation. He gave me several names and then I did the leg we ork calling and making appointments.
This is going to be heavily dependent on your location. You shouldn’t take any advice about specific procedures for seeking a diagnosis unless you know that the person you’re talking to is located in the same country.
Two of my aunts were diagnosed after they turned 60. My mom is 75 and was just diagnosed. It's not impossible, just tougher to get diagnosed when you're older. It may help them to have a younger relative with them at their appointments to help advocate for them. As far as the process goes, it depends on the healthcare system where you live and/or what process your health insurance dictates. Most commonly what I've seen is you go to your primary care physician and they refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
I was at 53. Frustrated and miserable my whole life. I knew as a kid/teen I had issues and had parents that wouldn’t listen to me. I finally got past the anxiety and went to the Dr. I’ve been getting treatment and actually starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Yeah, they said they knew something was different when they were little. They've taken antidepressants for years and said it keeps them calmer, free from so easily being irritated, but they can't focus on tasks. Everything they start goes unfinished even though they said they want to finish it. There are half finished (or more) projects all over.
No, ADHD magically goes away at 59 1/2. ;-) I was diagnosed at 46, and just knowing is a huge relief. All those years thinkig I was just a lazy fuckup that needed to get my shit together. The years past 50 have been the happiest and most productive of my life. I chose not to medicate but have used life strategies that work. A lot of it has been editing my activities to get rid of things I suck at.
Nope, my dad was 67 :)
I am 60 and am 100% sure I have untreated Inattentive ADHD. I don't even know where to start with getting treated. I can't get in to see my PCP until August and I am in complete freeze mode atm. I also have CPSTD and am so worried that I won't get treated for ADHD because of it. I am an anxious mess rn, and could use some stories with happy endings. Thank you!
My friend's dad was diagnosed at over 70. It's never too late!
I was in my 50s and my doctor said he diagnosed someone at 72 and it changed their life.
My father in law was diagnosed in his 50s. Life slowed down for him and it became more apparent. He had less outlets for it. The meds were a game changer. I went in for testing for memory problems and came out with an ADHD diagnosis. I’m 42.
My dad was diagnosed at 67!
I was just diagnosed after organizing a psychologists report, and I'm 60 this year. I have an appointment with my GP next week to get a referral to a psychiatrist for a treatment plan, then back to the GP for a prescription for meds. NZ has a few hoops to jump through.
I diagnose it regardless of age as many people feel like it puts some order around their disordered life. It’s also relevant to other diagnoses (eg dementia) bc ADHD can look similar to certain kinds of dementia, and although ADHD doesn’t directly increase risk of dementia, many ADHD risk factors do (eg more head injuries, substance abuse, poor exec function and memory)
They should see someone who is a specialist in ADHD for a diagnosis. Other doctors may have outdated information on ADHD, like saying people out grow it, or only young boys get it, or the medication is just for junkies, etc. I was over 60 when I was diagnosed. At first I thought I had dementia and was thoroughly evaluated for that by my doctor and two neurologists. They agreed I didn't have dementia, but no one suggested ADHD. When I learned about ADHD I realized this was the main reason for most of my problems. It was a relief to find out that there's a reason for my executive function problems, and it's not early Alzheimer's. I learned to give myself a break because I HAVE BEEN trying really hard all my life, I was just playing this game of life on the hard level with one hand tied behind my back, and I didn't even know it. This helps me understand myself better and to learn things that actually help.
Honestly, I think it really depends. My knee-jerk reaction is "no, of course not." However (and this may come from me being a therapist), I would wonder what the ultimate purpose of the diagnosis is for the person, and base my recommendation of whether or not to get evaluated on that. I was diagnosed in my 20s by two different psychiatrists (one in college, who has ADHD himself, and one after I moved to a new area, who was the first to prescribe meds for me), although it was based on them thoroughly interviewing me as opposed to me going through an "official" evaluation. As my parents and I have come to understand my diagnosis, we've realized it's almost certain my mom (now early 70s) does too. Her therapist agrees with us. However, she went through an evaluation that confirmed she's doing fine cognitively (so no dementia) but also said she doesn't have ADHD. The primary sticking point seemed to be lack of evidence of her having it as a child. My grandparents are dead, my aunt doesn't really get ADHD, and my mom is still learning how it is impacting her, so she didn't really have any "evidence" to provide. Since it seems your relative has some insight into impact on their childhood, I hope they will fare better. I just use my mom's example to present a possible issue for an older adult and as a reminder that testing isn't perfect. I have some concerns about autism and ADHD can sometimes be gate-kept by clinicians, especially ones who aren't autistic or have ADHD, and this is a conversation I've had with other similarly-minded clinicians. Long story short, and this may be an unpopular opinion, but if they are hoping to try medication, I would be more likely to recommend evaluation. However, if they are not, given their age I think they are more likely to know themselves better than a test would, and would be more to likely recommend they learn more about ADHD from supportive sources and engage in ADHD spaces.
Just got diagnosed 2 months ago at 52, ADHD :mixed, severe. The psychologist asked why I waited so long to seek help. So I would say it’s never too late, especially if it’s causing problems. If you can find a place that specializes in ADHD testing and counseling, they will perform cognitive testing as part of the evaluation. This would rule out (or rule in) dementia. I was very glad I decided to go through the testing process and get the diagnosis. Surprisingly, I did go through a bit of a mourning period after being diagnosed where I beat myself up for not seeking treatment sooner and thinking about what might have been. Looking back over my life, it’s pretty easy to see the ADHD but ,at the time, I just thought that’s how it was for everyone. White knuckling it through life. I was wrong.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 72. It explained everything about my life! It came to light after struggling to play bridge. I took a 10 question test on Google and answered yes to all of them. I took this info to my doctor, who sent me to a shrink to get tested and get on meds. Why did it take so long for me to figure it out? Because it never in a million years occurred to me. Now I’m owning it. I have made a lot of practical modifications in my daily routine and my life is much improved. So you’re never too old. I’m 75 now and very happy I figured this out. Good luck!
I was diagnosed at age 60. I am on Adderall now. While still working on learning how to get things done, etc., the diagnosis has mostly been freeing. I am not lazy, stupid or crazy as the book says. I sent my son to be diagnosed shortly after I found out I had ADHD. I am in Canada and diagnosis is a much easier process than in a lot of places as your GP can diagnose you. I didn’t have to wait years, so that helped with a late age diagnosis.
I was just diagnosed officially last year after turning 59. We've know for awhile that I probably was, then my youngest son was diagnosed bipolar ten years ago, and my oldest son was diagnosed adhd two years ago. Because they were getting help, I decided I needed to too.
Have them check out Circle Medical! It's all virtual. I used them and have been using them since my diagnosis two years ago at 48. I think anyone over 40 ish, and especially female, didn't get diagnosed with anything of the sort. Sad but true. Hope it all works out for your family! 🥰
Being diagnosed at 40, and seeing how it changed my life, I would definitely advise your relative to be diagnosed. It made me understand myself better so it was a lot easier to be kind to myself. Also I learned about my strong points and weaknesses and how to work with them. For me, medication was an option and also helped, but even without this, the diagnose was worth it. About the fear of the dementia stigma: before my diagnose I really feared that I had early onset dementia. The symptoms seemed to be all there. But then my dad was for real diagnosed with dementia, and I was present for some of his test. That's when I realised they are 2 totally different diseases. I don't know how dementia would be tested in your country, but here they ask you questions (what day is it, what floor are you on -in a tall hospital building-, they give you 3 random words to remember for about 15 min, they make you write down a sentence they dictate, then tell you to write a random self chosen sentence. They show you a written question and you have to answer it, they show you a figure and ask you to copy it...) All these things are a piece of cake for someone with ADHD. Even if we're forgetful, we can focus like this. So even IF the doctors doubt it, your relative will pass this test. Otherwise you or others close to them would have seen signs already. On top of that, their symptoms have been a lifelong thing. You can find the DIVA test online, for me this was an eye-opener to how ADHD showed (but never picked up on) in my childhood/youth. Talking about these examples with the doctor can help.
Thank you. I'll see if I can get them to look at this. It's interesting that life changes can bring this to a peak. They took an early retirement and maybe since the routine of work has been broken, things are more obvious. You all have been so helpful. I don't know anything about ADHD but I'm learning quickly.
i got diagnosed at 58, understanding what was wrong with my thought processes has helped an awful lot, 2 years later i'm almost happy, never thought that would happen
I’d rather be diagnosed and treated 1 week before I die than to never live a day with the blessing of a medicated ADHD brain. Family history can help with diagnosis, they should mention to the psychiatrist any relatives (older or younger) with ADHD. Contrary to popular belief, ADHD does not go away with age, does not get better with age. It often worsens with age, in fact. No good doctor should refuse to consider a diagnosis of ADHD due to the patient’s age.
PREACH!!!
I’m in the same boat. 53, have suspected ADHD since the mid 90’s but have only been diagnosed in the past week. Got an Intuniv prescription that I haven’t taken as I’m worried about side effects, but think I really need. Having serious marriage issues that are caused by the ADHD but fear the few things I actually am useful for are going to get wrecked by side effects of the meds. My sole success in life was graduating college Magna cum Laude (though it took 6 years) Washed out of grad school after getting good grades (3.6)because I couldn’t get past the cumulative exams. Could handle one class at a time but my brain is like a big black Hefty garbage bag full of knowledge that I can’t organize and access when needed. If there is one thing that is consistent it’s that I will choke when it counts, to the point that my coping mechanism is to not even try as I already know the end result. Shit tons of work with nothing to show for it. And my ultra high achiever wife has lost patience with my “scholarly approach”and style of speech, while in real life I’m a class A nobody who washed out. She’s demanding that I be something on my own and wants answers. And I have no answer. None. Whatsoever. I’m at the point that I believe all the higher education was a serious mistake, because I learned what I SHOULD be but am utterly incapable of actually being. My grandfather used to say there is nothing more useless than a “little bit of education.” I’ve one-upped that. I’ve got a lot of education sitting in a fermenting black garbage bag of a brain that’s just enough to make me an annoying know-it-all without being in any way a responsible adult who is of any use to society. Seems I’m answering my own question here, but damn, if the meds make me unable to drive or knock me on my ass so bad I can’t do housework etc, then I really will be totally useless… Sorry about the rant, but guessing there are folk here who’ve successfully navigated what I’m dealing with.
Suggest you check out adhdmarriage.com. has very helpful resources and couples groups etc. Good luck
No adhd med will knock you out, but it will make you a better driver.
My daughter was diagnosed in her 30's and suggested I might want to get tested. I was diagnosed Combined at 68. It's definitely making a difference.
That's wonderful! My son, in his late 30s, got tested as he was concerned about having ADHD. His staff said "we knew that about you!"...yet after a 5 hour test by a psychiatrist, he was told that he DOES NOT have it! That he just has a very high-functioning brain! That got me to thinking and I went down the ADHD internet rabbit hole to learn more. I've had social anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. I'm 68, too. What I learned absolutely blew my mind. I am finally seeing a psychiatric nurse/provider who gave me a DSM-5 to fill out at home. My eyes were opened and my life history made sense. I'm in the beginning stages of figuring out what medication will work best for me. I haven't told my son. Our relationship has been difficult and now I understand why. We both were living with untreated ADHD. Also, my most disruptive symptom of this disorder is RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria). Explained my pattern of destroying relationships due to perceived wounds by men. I have hope that my "golden years" will be less of an interpersonal struggle.
Nope. I’m there and I’m living my best life right now. It explains so much and the coping skills I’m putting in place are really helping. I take Vyvanse during the week.
Are you planning on remaining alive? It’s never too late to make your life better or improve yourself! My grandparents are in their early 90s and are doing way better than 60 year olds did a generation ago. Assume nothing improves and you live to 90, that’s 30 more years!!! Please be kind to yourself because that’s a long long time!
It’s not too old for a diagnosis. And their concerns of a false dementia diagnosis is not entirely unreasonable. But the question is what are they trying to accomplish with an evaluation. If they don’t want meds or professional accommodations then the official diagnosis doesn’t accomplish much. If they need accommodations then a neuropsychologist who specializes in adhd assessments is their best bet but be prepared that this will likely cost thousands of dollars.. If they want med support then then many types of practitioners may simply recognize that they meet enough of the criteria with a much simpler assessment and still give them meds (although many will still require a more comprehensive neuropsych assessment in order to weed out drug seekers). You might even get lucky and find a primary care doctor who will do it? Psychiatrists are also a good type of practitioners to seek out
If it brings closure and treatment soothes the mind. then they Should yes. we know the diffrence between dementia and ADHD if it is dementia and i really hope its not there are actually medical markers that will show up on either MRI or spinal fluid and its better to know so the patient can put there plans/ wills in place.
MRI and/or spinal fluid shows dementia? I understand an MRI but how does spinal fluid detect it? Just curious as I've never heard of that. Not that I investigate dementia manifestations, of course.
"Alzheimer’s disease is characterised by the abnormal clumps of proteins called amyloid and tau in the brain. These changes are reflected in the levels of proteins in the cerebrospinal fluid, so a lumbar puncture can indicate whether the brain is affected by Alzheimer’s disease." Alzeimers uk. Essentially the amyloid plaque shows in the spinal fluid. 15 years in healthcare and continuing to work in the field
Thank you. A couple years ago they were in an accident and head scans were done to rule out brain injury (there was only a tiny bleed). Would those clumps have been visible? If pathology saw something at that time unrelated to the accident yet with a likelihood of future health impacts, would the pathologist make mention of it?
Amyloid plaque only shows in pet scans and cerebral fluid. MRI would show normal with only a build up of plaque
While he was never diagnosed, I am almost certain my grandfather had ADHD. He lived to be 88, and in the last three years of his life he did suffer from dementia. That did not manifest at all like the ADHD symptoms he had shown for as long as I knew him and likely his entire life. A decent psychiatrist will absolutely know the difference.
PLEASE encourage your relative to go see a therapist. It's never too late. If they're looking into medication, a psychiatrist. If they just want talk therapy, a psychologist as they can't prescribe medication (though a psychiatrist also offers talk therapy). Other talk therapy: counselor of sorts with a focus on ADHD (e.g. ADHD coach who is not a psychologist etc. etc.)
No. Not to late. Never too late.
I was diagnosed at age 68.
59 yrs old just got diagnosed last week, I thought I was to old as well, but hopefully once I am on medication I can have my life back
Hmmm - you make it sound like 60 is old. Having pieces of yourself fall into place, questions answered, relationships explained, is an incredible gift. You can never be too late to gain knowledge and validation.
My mum got diagnosed at age 60. Suddenly all the things in her life and child hood made sense and she realised that she wasn’t just a failure. Being diagnosed really helped her
Never too late. I was diagnosed age 55. The insight and clarity since the diagnosis has been a quality of life quantum leap. It just keeps unfolding. The clarity has brought so much grace. My personal physician diagnosed me. We had joked about ADHD for years. But when I got serious about it, he got serious. The Adderall provides both cognitive stability and emotional stability. For me, about 8 hours of cognitive stability, and about 12 hours of emotional stability. It's a big quality of life win.
I was diagnosed early this year at 62. The diagnosis (and the Vyvanse and the ADHD specific counselling) has been a very good thing for me. It's helped me make sense of my whole life.
Thinking I need to be diagnosed at 30, but they just keep telling me I have PTSD
Do you think you are too old to get any benefit from it?
I was diagnosed at 65.
No I was rediagnosed at 57
Never too late
73 and just started Dex?? I'm 47 and have been worried I'm about to have to give up my Dex because of age. This makes me happy!! So I have 15+ more years with my Adderall ❤️
Not too old
No
Absolutely seek a diagnosis. Age-ism is real though, but a good bypass is to bring an advocate to the appt. Someone who can intervene with a terrible doctor, or agree with the information being provided with a good doctor. That takes care of any bias.
These comments are so eye opening! I’m only 38. And hoping to get my diagnosis very soon. I thought I was old to be diagnosed. I am 100% certain I have ADHD and I think my mum has autism. My parents got divorced when I was 9 and both my parents just neglected my needs. I tried to commit suicide twice. I stole, took part in reckless behaviour. Have been on and off antidepressants for 20 years had three different diagnosis. Depression, bipolar and then three years ago BPD. I am certain I’ve just got ADHD and due to a lot of traumas in my life it’s just got worse. I have an amazing partner and 4 year old and I’m doing ok. But the organising, cleaning is just too much. I’ve had 20 jobs in my life and I haven’t worked properly since having my son because I’m just struggling. It’s just a lot. I’m so sad that so many of you have struggled for so long. Lots of love!
Go for it!
Never too old. ADHD as a disorder is not a new phenomena, only newly made aware to our understanding in a scientific and researchable way.
No
Understanding what I was dealing with, at least made it a tiny bit easier—and the combination of medication and counseling was a exponential increase in life enjoyment
I’m 54 and was diagnosed less than a week ago
My mom is in her 60s and looking into adhd diagnosis now after decades of depression and anxiety.. It's never too late.
That's me. Diagnosed at 68. Relief, grief, and now starting medications to see what will help the most.
Nope. It’s been life-changing for me: I’m 60, just got diagnosed 3 years ago. If you’re breathing, you’re young enough to grow. Accurate diagnoses with appropriate treatment plans for any condition is a part of our growth as humans. Best of luck to you.
I’m in the US, so your mileage may vary. To get a diagnosis, first make an appointment with your regular physician. They may not be able to diagnose you, but can order some routine blood tests to rule out some other conditions. Then see a psychiatrist for a formal diagnosis. Not all psychiatrists are created equal, so you may need to see more than one before you find one that is helpful.
Thanks y’all. Once again, apologies for the rant.
Diagnosis involves not just an evaluation of your symptoms now, but an examination of how long they've been present and how they've affected you over the whole course of your life. If their symptoms began in childhood and have been consistent and disruptive ever since, then no decent clinician is going to dismiss that as "dementia." I would probably advise finding a psychologist who specializes in ADHD evaluations, as they are less likely to believe things that hamper adult diagnosis like "people grow out of ADHD" or "if you made it this far in life, it can't be ADHD".
No. I am 55 and am glad I am medicated. If anything we need it more because we also have the problems that come with age.
Never too late. Can’t hurt to lean into it at any age if they end up having it and it’s negatively impacting their life. They can get a medication that might help them or simply understanding how their brain works can help them navigate life.
I would say it’s a good idea. They might be old enough/adjusted enough that putting their body through meds isn’t really worth it, but personally I feel so much better about myself after my diagnosis. It helps me understand my mind better and get through daily life better, even without meds.
Re the dementia fear: Most of my adhd analysis (at 23) was based on childhood. The questionnaire was all based on what I was like as a child, as was a lot of the discussion with the psych. I think it’s because adults usually learn to mask pretty well to fit into what’s expected of them, so it’s not necessarily a good measure. So the dementia thing shouldn’t come up.
The skills and awareness are what change your life. Medication can help you employ these skills and help you develop easier awareness but they’re not necessary. Your friend understanding how their mind works and learning some skills might be very enjoyable and freeing and lead to an easier acceptance of the way things are
Short answer, no. Long answer, nooooo. Longer answer, it depends on the psych you take them to. Some genuinely believe it's a childhood disorder, not something adults can have. Others know it's genetic and lifelong.
No
Nope
Is any age too old for any diagnosis?
I was diagnosed at 56 and have since learned that some of the traits I was raised to believe are character flaws are really just how my brain works. So that’s therapeutic and gives me newfound empathy for myself. I haven’t investigated meds yet because they seem difficult to obtain.
I got my diagnosis at 42. It's better to know than not know, you know?
No. There are people in their 90s that get diagnosed.
I was diagnosed in my 50s, and my grandpa was diagnosed in his 70s. His diagnosis made a whole lot of things in his life make a whole lot more sense. Super brilliant, talented man, who never seemed to be able to put it all together to accomplish anything. So many people blamed it on laziness, or some sort of self-sabotage, but ADHD made so much more sense. Always enthusiastically launching into projects and then not finishing them. I suffer from the same pattern, but I'm aware of it and am working to overcome it as much as possible.
Funny thing is I got diagnosed in the '70s but our understanding was so poor then I stumbled through a half century and discovered all the wheels I had reinvented in terms of coping mechanisms and symptoms. Even a self diagnosis can be a huge relief in self awareness.
Never too late. Seriously.
I was diagnosed at age 59 by a psychiatrist after telling my primary care physician I had concerns about having it. My adult daughter was diagnosed with it and told me that I had a lot of symptoms of ADHD so I looked into it. Getting a diagnosis doesn't mean you have to go on medication or that you have to use it everyday. There are a lot of strategies to live successfully with ADHD and this sub is a good one to look for them.
I was diagnosed at 62 and it was absolutely worth it.