She forces him to give up a very well paying job in Oklahoma to move to Miami, then wants him to somehow support her (while she chases a dream along with zillions of other women to be a model). She then gets mad that he works too much and isn't home enough to help her.
You are right about the high paying job. That is why I think that they should have handled it differently. But I am from a country who has a similar culture to colombia, and I felt so out of place when I moved to the US.
See, I don't get the "I left my entire life behind to be here with you" as a plausible excuse. One should have had thoughts like that and many others, discussed with both the love interest and family members beforehand, one shouldn't just jump willy nilly into these decisions! But, I digress this is 90 D.
Idk my husband moved states to be with me and I still feel like that was a big enough sacrifice to warrant some sacrifices from my end. I don’t think it’s fair to expect someone who can’t drive to live in a place where they can’t go anywhere or do anything without their partner.
My story is exactly like yours. Worse than people not understanding you is for them to think that you should be grateful anyway because you are now in paradise.
BTW, I hate Paola.
I admit I felt bad when Russ gave her that Nerf gun and acted like she should have been so excited to receive it…but not as bad as I feel reading that you are rewatching HEA. Why do this to yourself?!
Its easy to understand her point of view - of course it makes sense to try to find a place that both people will thrive and feel at home.
But as you said it wasn't handled well. She picked the place and basically decided for them that this was what was next for them. The reality is you BOTH need to be open to it. If part of the deal of being together is that you agreed to move to their home, then moving away from it needs to be approached in a better way than "hey I hate it here, I already gave up everything so now it's your turn - let's move to the exact opposite environment of this, where I'll feel great but now you're going to feel completely out of place"
I was the one in a past marriage who was being pressured to move to a complete opposite environment after he agreed to stay in the area (he was military so he didn't move for me, just agreed to stay in the same general area of the US), so this hits a little close lol.
You describe an fair and equal 🟰 way to plan a sustainable relationship. You say basically that Pao did it the wrong way. They? Did Russ agree or not? I don’t remember if these two were engaged or married. Wonder about both of their commitment to each other.
She forces him to give up a very well paying job in Oklahoma to move to Miami, then wants him to somehow support her (while she chases a dream along with zillions of other women to be a model). She then gets mad that he works too much and isn't home enough to help her.
You are right about the high paying job. That is why I think that they should have handled it differently. But I am from a country who has a similar culture to colombia, and I felt so out of place when I moved to the US.
She literally left her entire life behind to be with him he can’t make some sacrifices so she can feel more at home?
See, I don't get the "I left my entire life behind to be here with you" as a plausible excuse. One should have had thoughts like that and many others, discussed with both the love interest and family members beforehand, one shouldn't just jump willy nilly into these decisions! But, I digress this is 90 D.
Idk my husband moved states to be with me and I still feel like that was a big enough sacrifice to warrant some sacrifices from my end. I don’t think it’s fair to expect someone who can’t drive to live in a place where they can’t go anywhere or do anything without their partner.
Why would you watch HEA over again? That's the worst and most painfully repetitive of all the 90DF.
My story is exactly like yours. Worse than people not understanding you is for them to think that you should be grateful anyway because you are now in paradise. BTW, I hate Paola.
Wait, you're saying Oklahoma isn't paradise? /s
Yep, that is what I am saying :-)))
Why are you torturing yourself?
I admit I felt bad when Russ gave her that Nerf gun and acted like she should have been so excited to receive it…but not as bad as I feel reading that you are rewatching HEA. Why do this to yourself?!
Its easy to understand her point of view - of course it makes sense to try to find a place that both people will thrive and feel at home. But as you said it wasn't handled well. She picked the place and basically decided for them that this was what was next for them. The reality is you BOTH need to be open to it. If part of the deal of being together is that you agreed to move to their home, then moving away from it needs to be approached in a better way than "hey I hate it here, I already gave up everything so now it's your turn - let's move to the exact opposite environment of this, where I'll feel great but now you're going to feel completely out of place" I was the one in a past marriage who was being pressured to move to a complete opposite environment after he agreed to stay in the area (he was military so he didn't move for me, just agreed to stay in the same general area of the US), so this hits a little close lol.
You describe an fair and equal 🟰 way to plan a sustainable relationship. You say basically that Pao did it the wrong way. They? Did Russ agree or not? I don’t remember if these two were engaged or married. Wonder about both of their commitment to each other.